Of Crashes, ipads, Costs, and Romantic Overtures…Posted: April 11, 2012
My computer crashed last night. I have to say, it is a rather frustrating and disconnected feeling to suddenly have nothing working onscreen. At first opportunity, I ran (well, not literally) down to the computer store and voila, things are up and running again. Going into the computer store was like entering the bridge of the Starship Enterprise. Ah, technology. Can’t live without it, can’t live without it. (That was not a typo.)
I’m thinking of getting an ipad. Anyone have one? Anyone have any ipad opinions?
In other worldly news, I received my car insurance renewal, and because I moved to a city, the premium is HUNDREDS of dollars more! Egads. I drive a fraction of the amount I used to, I walk all over and sometimes take public transport. That does not matter, says the insurance company; only the locale matters, and I am more likely to have… break-ins, fender benders… pedestrian or moped or shopping-cart collisions.
I did consider selling my car. Think how much money would be saved on insurance, on gas! On car washes, oil changes, maintenance of all sorts. New windshield wipers — that’s what I next need, in addition to a car wash. Actually, before I moved to the city, I washed my own car, and waxed it, and vacuumed it. I am no wimp. OK, I am a wimp, in some ways, but I like to live simply and I don’t like to waste money. (Sorry, I guess this was a minor rant, venting about the cost of auto insurance…)
As for the romantic overtures, the man with whom I broke up wants to… amend his ways. Is that possible? If he is contrite and remorseful, do I give him the opportunity to try again, or rather, do I give us the opportunity?
Anyone who has been reading here lo these last three weeks or so knows of this, somewhat, but to briefly recap: the main reason for the breakup, from my standpoint, seems to be that he, being single forever, is so used to his own ways that he seems selfish.
Now that I am on my own and breathing a bit, I can tell that I was initially too accommodating, which was my own fault and gave him too much leeway to call the shots in the relationship. So maybe it is not entirely his fault that we always did what he wanted. Maybe I should have been more assertive, but I can’t help that I am sensitive to other people’s needs and wants, it’s how I am. It would be good if he could clue into my needs and wants, a little. If I have to often tell him what they are, it makes me feel selfish.
However, I’m not used to having much of a say in such matters, and that is another thing that is not his fault. I should have a say, of course. There are two people in a relationship, two opinions, two viewpoints, two sets of needs and wants. (It’s easier when the needs and wants are the same or similar, of course.)
Is caring and consideration something that can be taught? If he is not accustomed to that, can he get used to it, if he really wants to, or is it a lost cause? I feel I should be grateful that someone is so enamored with me and my little idiosyncrasies, and maybe I should try to be more patient…
I am debating with myself, as you can tell.
Those are my musings, and that is my romantic quandary du jour.
I hope that your week is progressing in a happy manner!